The Miracle of Mothers – May 2013 Newsletter
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People often wonder what to give Mom…flowers, candy (absolutely no appliances!). To me, the best gifts are the gifts of time; my favorite times are when we spend family time together just doing things…playing a game or watching a movie. This Mother’s Day reach out to your mother and spend some time together, whether it’s a visit in person or just a telephone conversation.
For some this is a simple task, for others not so simple. For families coping with Alzheimer’s disease this can be a big challenge. Mom may not be able to talk on the phone, or be able to participate in a conversation. She may not be local to you, or able to engage in an activity. And for those who have lost their Mom, this is a time to reflect, reminisce and say “I love and miss you!”
Mothers, and grandmothers too, should be recognized for the unconditional love and devotion to their children, whether they are 4 or 40! A mother is always there to nurture and support her children. Mothers help by caring, and healing, and being the peacemaker. Mother’s Day was conceived during the Civil War, to honor motherhood, and to recognize the sacrifice of so many sons to maintain the Union. It’s no wonder that Memorial Day is in the same month as Mother’s Day.
Let’s not forget to honor Mom this Mother’s Day, and also remember those soldiers and their families who sacrificed for our freedoms. ElderCare at Home staff thanks all our mothers and veterans. We welcome the opportunity to celebrate and honor them. They are true miracles!
We encourage you to reach out for assistance in honoring your loved one, or to get additional information. For more information you can also visit our website at eldercareathome.org or call our 24-hour crisis line at 800-209-4342. We are here to help you honor them!
ElderCare at Home
We have achieved just that! I have enjoyed every visit with our clients. I cannot fathom going a day without seeing their bright smiles and masterpieces they make along the way. There are literally hundreds of activities that people with dementia will respond to, that engage them both mentally and physically.In addition to providing our clients with these extra services we are able to capture moments for the Milestone Memories program. Providing these services and enjoying how their faces light up, makes their special day even more perfect. The program also goes beyond the celebration and creates a personalized DVD of the event for the entire family to enjoy for years to come.What I enjoy most about this program is the excitement in our client’s eyes and voice when they hear I am on the way for our monthly visit, where they are the star of the show. I cannot stress enough how imperative it is to maintain an interactive, fun, daily schedule with dementia patients and to remember to cherish those memories along the way. After all, “The best thing about memories…is making them!”
This month I look forward to honoring all Mother’s and Veteran’s. Please call the office to register for our program by calling 800-209-4342 or by email. Our program can consist of taking pictures, videotaping while visiting the home with special cards, cake and activity that is suited for your loved one. Space is limited, Call today!
Happy Birthday Mr. Schafner!
Mr. Schafner celebrated his 84th birthday. He grew up in the Bronx, and moved to Miami in 1970. He was happily married to the love of his life for 50 years. He lives with his son, and enjoys every minute of life in sunny South Florida! The ElderCare Staff wishes Mr. Metzler a Happy Birthday and many more to come!
These May flowers work perfectly as a Mother’s Day Gift as well as fitting in the theme of Spring Flowers for May. It requires minimal clean up and allows your loved one to feel through the paint and make a beautiful picture!
1. Red and Green finger paint (Tempera paint works best)
Please grant my visitors tolerance for my confusion,
forgiveness for my irrationality,
and the strength to walk with me
into the mist my world has become.
Please let them take my hand, stay awhile
even though I seem unaware of their presence.
Help them know how their strength and loving care
will drift slowly into the days to come
just when I need it most.
Let them know when I don’t recognize them
that I will, I will.
Keep their hearts free from sorrow for me,
for my sorrow when it comes
only lasts a moment. Then it’s gone.
please let them know how much their visit means,
how even through this relentless mystery
I can still feel their love.
Southeast Honor Flight
On April 27, the latest Honor Flight, which gives our veterans an opportunity to tour our nation’s Capitol and visit the memorials erected in their honor, returned home to a well deserved cheer from the crowd at Palm Beach International Airport. The photos capture the spirit of the occasion, as hundreds gathered to thank them for their service.
Taking Care of the Caregiver:
What is Respite Care and How Can I Get It?
Over and over we hear from caregivers that they do not feel they have the support or respite care to help themselves. Caregivers need to take time for themselves. Grab lunch with an old friend, go to an exercise class to revive yourself, quite stroll through the book store. Caregivers are afraid to leave their loves ones, worried about their safety, sanity…. ElderCare at Home’s Reach Out for Respite program was designed specially with those needs in mind. Our companions and home health care nurses are trained specifically to be with Memory Impaired Patients. Caregivers can trust our staff to provide appropriate care with dignity, compassion and expertise. Best of all, it is affordable!
Compulsive hoarding includes all three of the following:
1) A person collects and keeps a lot of things, even things that appear useless or of little value to most people AND
2) These items clutter the living spaces and keep the person from using their rooms as they were intended AND
3) The items cause problems or distress in day-to-day activities.
The difference between collecting and hoarding is that collectors seek to display their possessions and keep them well organized, while hoarders seldom seek to display their possessions (often actively discouraging visitors) which are usually kept in disarray.
We all have our collections of “stuff”, but most of us are not afraid to engage in spring cleaning when it gets too be too much. Compulsive hoarders have difficulty getting rid of items, and allow it to accumulate to the point where getting around is difficult. Often they will lose important items like money or bills in the clutter. They may feel overwhelmed by the volume of possessions, but can’t bear to part with them. They can’t resist taking free items, buy things to “stock up” or because it’s a bargain. And they won’t invite family or friends to visit due to shame or embarrassment, and won’t let people into the home to make repairs.
Hoarders often struggle throughout their lives, but the situation is exacerbated by the death of their spouse, who may have helped keep it under control, or by the onset of dementia and the resulting confusion and emotional turmoil. Here in Florida, where immediate family is often not present, there may be no awareness of the problem until something bad happens.
The safety risks are obvious, as severe clutter threatens the health and safety of those living in or near the home, presents health risks (especially animal hoarders, who have an additional level of compulsive behavior in believing that only they can love their pets, or those who collect garbage and rotten food) and can lead to structural problems, fire and even death.
Interventions by family and friends are usually met with strong resistance. There are techniques and strategies that work, but they require the assistance of trained professionals to work with the hoarder and to coach their friends and loved ones. If your loved one is in the hospital or a skilled nursing facility, and you are concerned about the condition of their home, one important step is to engage with our transition services. We will visit the home, and if there is a problem we can work together to navigate the situation. Just cleaning the mess doesn’t fix the problem, and often the situation will just return with even greater resistance to future help. The first step is to contact our Alzheimer’s Care Crisis Line to work with a professional care navigator who can help!
Healthy Home Humor
“I want my children to have all the things I couldn’t afford…
Then I want to move in with them!”
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