Caregivers can easily become overwhelmed when trying to assist their loved ones who may be experiencing changes in memory, personality, judgment, reasoning, motivation, speech, problem solving and/or vision. An approach used to enlist their cooperation with a task or activity may be successful one day but not the next, or may not even work within the next 10 minutes.
Changes in behavior and ability are influenced by a number of factors such as emotions, environment and physical health. There are also times when communication signals within the brain vary. For example, an individual who is usually able to dress himself or herself may suddenly be unable to complete this task one day, yet the following day this ability has returned.
Some general techniques exist that can help promote positive interactions with individuals who are experiencing dementia. Consistent use of these techniques can go a long way in helping reduce the stress of these individuals, which will make daily routines easier and more pleasant for everyone.
- Remain calm. People with symptoms of dementia are sensitive to the body language and behavior of others around them, even if they do not understand exactly what is happening and why. During interactions, be conscious of the nonverbal cues you are sending through your posture, rhythm of physical movements, eye contact, tone and volume of voice, and the speed of speech. If words and actions don’t match, insecurity will result, and the individual will be less likely to cooperate with the task at hand.
- Front and center. Approach the individual from the front whenever possible. Changes in vision, such as a reduced visual field, as well as the brain’s impaired ability to process information, make the environment a more threatening place. Startling an individual by coming up from behind them or even from the side may trigger a flight or fight response and result in behavior that will be labeled as “aggressive.”
- One at a time. Provide directions one at a time with visual as well as verbal cues. Slower thought processing prevents the brain from comprehending multiple steps of a task at the same time. Share the first step and provide the time and resources needed to complete that step before moving to the next one.
- Respect. It is easy to use “baby talk” when someone’s understanding is impaired. Remember that you are speaking with another adult. Clear and concise language will aid communication without causing feelings of defensiveness.
- In the moment. Remember that people experiencing dementia are living in the “here and now,” but their “here and now” may be very different than ours. The person, place and time in their minds is very real to them, and attempts to use logic and reality orientation will likely lead to disagreement and frustration for everyone, since the details and overall comprehension of their lives are incomplete. Appropriately meeting an individual in his/her reality will foster trust and connection.
The ultimate goal when interacting with an individual who is experiencing symptoms of dementia is to establish a personal connection. This connection will promote the successful support of both the affected individual’s and the caregiver’s needs at that particular moment.
Due to the nature of dementia, establishing these connections requires additional time and effort from a caregiver, but more favorable outcomes will be rewarding for all involved.