Tuesday Tips for Caregivers – Tips on How to Have the “Home Care Conversation”
When Home Care is needed, families find it hard to let their loved ones know of the change.
Here are some helpful tips to have the “Home Care” conversation:
- Start early
* Choose a comfortable time and place. Keep it simple. Ask open ended questions to learn what is important to your loved one. Use words that are non-threatening and avoid acting like a parent.
- Be understanding
* Diagnosis of Parkinson’s or Alzheimer’s is scary to hear. Realize that any resistance could be a feeling of losing control. Put yourself in your loved ones shoes—would you want help with personal care? Be sure to look for signs of depression.
- Be honest
*Express concern without accusing. “I’m worried about you” rather than “You can’t take care of yourself anymore Mom”. Provide examples such as “Your medication got mixed up”. Focus on the behavior, not the person.
- Be respectful
* It is hard for seniors to accept that they can’t do the normal things they used to anymore. Suggest ideas without being pushy. Remember that the decision is ultimately up to your loved one.
- Ask for help
* Ask other seniors who use home care if they would speak with your loved one and help them consider this their best option. Meet with your loved one and their doctor, to provide an unbiased opinion.